Soul Sick #FamiliesBelongTogether

Once, when my daughter was four, I participated in a six-week program at my undergraduate institution. It involved staying on campus overnight because not only did we participate in special classes but also field trips. I called my daughter every single day and visited her on the weekends. She was also staying with her paternal grandparents who she loved and trusted.

One day, after the program was over, I was dropping her off at daycare, and she asked me where I was going. When I said “School,” she burst into tears and begged me not to leave her.

I couldn’t understand why she was so upset. I mean, I took her to daycare every day. I went to school twice a week. But then I remembered that the last time I went to school was during that program. So for my daughter, school no longer meant something I did for a couple of hours before picking her up at the end of the day–school now meant I was leaving her and she didn’t know how long I would be gone or when I would be back.

As I think about the children being separated from their families at the US border, I feel sick. I am talking seriously, physically ill. When I contacted my reps, the whole time I felt like I was going to vomit. And since then, I haven’t been able to stop thinking about my daughter who was traumatized by my leaving her when she knew exactly where I was, knew when I would be back, was with people who she knew and loved, talked to me every day, and was safe and well taken care of.

The children at the border HAVE NONE OF THAT. And it makes my soul sick. Every day. So. I have contacted my reps. I gave to this fundraiser. I’m going to write postcards. Here’s a link to other ways we can all help. Also, there will be protests.

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It’s Mother’s Day

Today is Mother’s Day, and I’ll spend it running an errand with (and for) my daughter. This is not a bad thing. She got a job (🙌🏾) and needs to get her uniform before she starts tomorrow. But this is the crux of why (and I can say this without bitterness) I treat Mother’s Day like any other day. As a single mother, it’s just another day for me where things need to get done, errands need to get run, and my daughter needs care.

Here's to my birth marking the last minute you ever had to yourself.

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Conversations with My Daughter

So, my daughter is here for her summer break, which is yay. As previously mentioned, I did have to do some things to make my apartment suitable for two instead of one. So one of those things was buying her a bed.

Me: Do you want me to get the bed before you get here or do you want to wait?

Her: You can get it. I trust you. Just remember that I like a soft bed and not those doors you like to sleep on.

So, I get the mattress.  Here’s what happened after her first night here.

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Conversations with My Students #SOL18

Today, I found myself thinking about the random things I share with my students and what prompts the sharing. We’re on week five of the semester, so getting to know each other better. The attendance rate in two of my classes is horrible (seriously, so bad), but that means there are a handful of students who show up consistently and so we have the intimacy of a smaller class even if the roster is pretty full.

It was raining today, so I told my first class all about my one sock that kept falling down and that rain kept getting in my (ankle-high) boots.

Oh! So, one student recorded my lecture from Tuesday, which I didn’t know. (His accommodation allows him to, but I told him to still let me know in the future because [a] it’s creepy that I didn’t know and [b] I need to know if I’m being filmed so I can make sure I don’t say anything that could get me in trouble.) We had this exchange as a result.

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Nineteen #SOL18

My daughter is nineteen today and because we’re living in the future, and she’s on the other side of the country, I FaceTimed with her to wish her a happy birthday and watch her open her gift. I got us tickets to see Hamilton, and she (a) guessed that’s what the gift was and (b) had a lukewarm reaction.

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#SomethingonSunday: Holiday Edition

I flew into TN to spend the holidays with my best friend and her family. More importantly, my daughter is also here, and we’ll be together until she heads back to school (and I head back home) on Jan. 2. That is all. 😀

It’s Monday. I’m Reading.

Well, I was all buoyed up to write this post, and then my daughter called and we had a lovely chat for about 30 minutes, and now I’m ready for bed. But! I have challenged myself to post every day, so answer the challenge I will. I’ll keep it pretty straightforward, though.

1. I have challenged myself to write a blog post every day during November. That means I have posted some things. Here are those things from last week:

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Right, so: October 2017 Wrap Up

I am not participating in NaNoWriMo, but I did decide today to blog every day for the month of November. What better way to start than to catch up on all the blog posts I didn’t make during the last two weeks of October?

(Also, I only have 20 minutes to crank this out, so let’s see how it goes.)

1. My daughter came to visit me for her fall break and the whole thing was an adventure. She missed her flight, we rode public transportation, she got sick, and then some other stuff happened that I don’t remember because I didn’t blog about it. The short version is adventure! The long version is lost somewhere in my brain.

2. I finished two books (er, abandoned one actually):

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My domain name has expired but my blog lives on

I just realized I am guilty of a thing that I hate that other people do: not putting Goodreads links (or Amazon or wherever) for books I’m currently reading. I will no longer make that mistake.

Hello! This has been a whirlwind week. First, I have to say I am officially OFFICIALLY on vacation now. I know I said I was on vacation last week (and I was), but I had to wrap up some search committee work, which meant I had to go to work twice. TWICE. That does not count as vacation, especially since I had to (a) set my alarm and (b) go to work and do work. Interviews! Work.

Anyway, it’s over now, and I have three months with no teaching or search committees ahead of me.

A funny thing keeps happening to me. I cannot for the life of me remember what I am planning to do in my classes in the fall. I always remember three of the four assignments I have planned. And it’s only ever three. Usually it’s the same three, but this time it’s a different three. My plan is to put the missing assignment in my phone as soon as I remember.

But I digress.

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K is for Knowing Who to Call #AtoZChallenge

So my friend Jasmine got mad at me yesterday because she wasn’t my J. Even though I said in the beginning that I wasn’t going to do family or friends because I felt that was too easy.

However, I felt it imperative to do a post that, you know, kind of features my family and friends–especially after my daughter blew out the tire on the car yesterday.

So, yes, my daughter blew out the rear tire yesterday. The good news is that she was close to home (leaving the street). The better news is that we needed help changing the tire, so I called my dad who was available to come over. (The best news is that I didn’t cheap out on the warranty for my tires and it should be getting replaced for free. We shall see for sure tomorrow.)

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My dad was the right person to call. Because, really, the tire thing needed to be fixed, but the more pressing issue was that my daughter needed a ride to an appointment. She wanted to call her friend, and I was like, “No. Call your grandfather.” And, of course, it worked out better than calling the friend because my dad scooped her, took her to her appointment on the other side of town, waited for her to finish her appointment, brought her home, and then taught both of us how to change the tire.

So that got me thinking about how important it is to not only have people to call but to know who to call. And that’s why I’m so grateful for all of my friends and family who provide me with so much support.

And, yes, Jasmine is one of those people.

But there are others who I can call and text for myriad reasons, some specific and some general. And I am truly blessed to have so many people in my corner.

Blogging from A to Z is a challenge that runs through the month of April.

For the Blogging from A to Z Challenge this year, my theme is gratitude. Every day, I am going to post about something I am grateful for. Tune in tomorrow to see what I pick for L.